Are you a soulmate or Life partner in your relationship?
Updated: Aug 4
Recently, I was asked a question on a dating app by someone I recently matched with. The question was “Would you rather be a life partner or soulmate”. It’s interesting because I rumbled to answer that question. As easy as it seems, I had a hard time answering it. I had to think about how my relationship with someone else was. Most of the time we tend to believe the misconception of, when you find your soul mate, you will be life partners, for the most part, it is true but not all the time.
There are differences between soulmates and life partners. A soulmate is a person that enters into your life to teach you and motivate you, to become of a higher state of being. A life partner is a life companion that is and will be in your lifetime. Most of us consider that the person we have been with the longest years, we kissed under the fireworks or the partner that we traveled and moved into a house together we would be happy sharing our lives with them for the long-term. That’s false.
As I’m thinking about the question while watching “Indian matchmaking” on Netflix, it left me confused. The show is about a lady named Sima from Mumbai, travels around matching two Indian people who are looking to get married. Each person specifies the person their wants and needs of their partner and that could be anything from looks to hobbies and personality. She has a database where she keeps her records and carefully selects partners according to her client’s desires.
However, during the TV show, a few couples were shown who have been married for over 30 years through arrange marriage speaking about their experience and how they have found their life partners. But the difference is that the older married couples from the tv show, didn't have the option to choose their partner through a matchmaker, they just got married. As for the modern generation, they have someone helping them find their partner. I then realized the reason that there is not much life-lasting love is that we seek for qualities in a partner and that doesn’t lead to long-lasting companionship.
Someone once quoted “The reasons we fall in love may be a mystery, but the reasons we stay in love are far less elusive. So, I decided to the differences that soulmate and life partner brings into our lives. I realized all my relationships I was more of a soulmate than I was a life partner, because I was either helping my former partners uplift them emotionally, encourage them to achieve their goals and many other things. After all the years of being together, we break apart.
Here are the few differences between soulmates and life partner.
A soulmate enters your life to fill with assistance and passion that needs to be learned, and they don’t tend to last that long which leads to horrible heartbreak. Life a partner is has the same interest as the soulmate, but life partners stick around with all the obstacles because they are deeply connected to the person they are with, basically “ride or die” type of partner.
Soulmates usually have the same background or upbringing as their partner. What attracts the person to their soulmate is because the two people feel like they’ve known each other for a long time. Life partner comes from a completely different path and it's their difference that increases the emotional connection. Love grows with each passing day.
Most of us are always in search for our soulmate to complete us so that we can feel or be a whole. Soulmates come when people are looking for closure or the feel to be loved again. Both people who are in a soulmate relationship face a lot of obstacles and overwhelming joy and this brings the best and worst of each other. However, the relationship with a life partner continues to connect through their current lives, and they create oneness while remaining happy in their individuality.
The main difference between a life partner and a soulmate is that one is a choice and the other one is not. As we live throughout our lives we should be open to learning and understanding about ourselves and others because each person that enters your life is a teacher and student.